Slow to delete TOAST table data

Hello, I am in need of some help figuring out what is going on with this
query. I am cleaning up some data. This data set is about 3.5 million
records and I am trying to purge out 400k of them. I was able to remove this
data quickly from some of the related tables that had no TOAST data
associated with them but when it came to remove the data from the main table
that has a lot of binary data stored and that has been TOASTed is is taking
a long time.

This is what I have done. I selected into a temporary table the id's that I
wanted to remove. Then:

delete from raw as t1
using temp_raw_ids t2
where t1.raw_id = t2.raw_id;

to remove the data. There is no index on this temp table because it is a
one column wide table and that didn't seem to impact the delete from the
first 5 tables but the last delete is still running after 24 hours and has
only processed about 100k of the records. (The first 5 were done in less
then 1 hour, total.)

Here's the explain:
"Hash Join (cost=7445.63..300049.01 rows=276517 width=6)"
" Hash Cond: (t1.raw_id = t2.raw_id)"
" -> Seq Scan on raw t1 (cost=0.00..246983.09 rows=3428409 width=14)"
" -> Hash (cost=3989.17..3989.17 rows=276517 width=8)"
" -> Seq Scan on temp_raw_ids t2 (cost=0.00..3989.17 rows=276517
width=8)"

What can I look at to determine; first that this process is not just
thrashing but actually accomplishing something, and second what is keeping
this from being more efficient? The data set has been vacuumed and analyzed
before starting this process.

thanks
-glen

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Glen Brown